The US and China's relationship

after today's discussion on Panama and the Chinese and EU influence in the investments, I thought that the topic that we brought up on a fusion of powers compared to a challenge of powers was something worth diving into. I personally feel that if we treat the Chinese as enemies, then they will act like enemies. Although I disagree with the Chinese method of governance, with dirty industry, corrupt authoritarianism, and aggressive militarism, I feel that we are in the right place right now to welcome them into the globalized world and help bring them to the standards many of us enjoy in the West, Oceania, and Japan/South Korea. China's increasing presence is only as much a threat as we make it out to be. Instead of closing them in throughout the South China Sea, why not welcome them into a coalition of militaries? The US is already stretched out across the world far too much, and a Sino alliance could help with this. Although the Chinese transition towards a higher standard of living and a more liberal, equality-based form of governance will not be an easy or a fast one, it is entirely possible. First, the US must put itself in a position where they can preach such a system. Our infrastructure is crumbling, our military men commit crimes and escape persecution, we are reluctant to punish those in high seats of power, we buy 2 tomahawk missiles and cut funding for a diplomatic mission to an abrasive "ally", we use torture and treat innocent people like criminals and terrorists, we spy on nearly everyone, even our allies, and our politicians can be jingoistic racists. If we continue this trend, how can we say we are any better than those we are trying to help improve? The US is in a very special position right now, and our best method is to kill our enemies with kindness. If we don't take advantage of this opportunity while we have it, we may lose out on what may be the world's greatest opportunity for global peace. If we continue to treat potential allies as threats, then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. We have to act now before this faux threat becomes a very real one. Although this may seem idealistic, the alternative is slow moving bureacracy or backwards "realist" cynicism.